Right now, I’m sitting in my kitchen, looking outside at a bright blue sky and a lawn partially covered in snow. It’s an appropriate visual for the month of March, when we seem to be stratteling the seasons with one foot in winter, one foot edging toward spring. Life can be like that, too, when you’re going through a transformation, either physical or emotional, and it feels like you’re stuck in between your past and future.
For many of us trying to make healthier choices in life, this is where things can get interesting. You haven’t quite yet reached your goal, but you’ve also made a lot of progress toward it. It’s the middle of the race and there’s no one around to cheer you on or block your path. It’s the middle of the race. Maybe you feel like giving up. Maybe you’ve lost your way a bit and are second-guessing the direction you are heading in. If that’s the case, now is when it’s a good idea to refocus and reaffirm why you started out on this journey in the first place. The other thing you can do? Cut yourself some slack. Because you can’t move forward if you’re beating yourself up and filling your head with a bunch of negative self-talk.
If you’re used to putting yourself second on the list (or not at all) or not feeling entitled to love or success or happiness when you start prioritizing your needs or asking for what you deserve you may find yourself filled with feelings of guilt and self-doubt. Shake them off. Keep reminding yourself that you deserve to be happy. That you are capable. Find a mantra and use it. Deborah Hanekamp, a Shaman-based in New York City, once said to me, “Trust that the people in your life will still love you when you are your authentic self.” It’s something I hold onto—and say to myself—when I feel unsure of the changes I’m trying to make in my life.
Say it with me:
I can do this.
I am stronger than anyone realizes.
Everything I want is within my reach.
Happy Spring everyone! Feel free to email me at email@example.com. I love hearing from you.